Episode 67: One Huge Reason Why it's so Hard to Stop Emotional Eating (aka fear of change, part two).
On last week's podcast, we talked about the common fears and concerns our parts tend to have when making any kind of change. Not surprisingly, when I say "change," I'm specifically referring changing your relationship with food. Doing things like no longer dieting, trying to stop emotional eating, and/or no longer bingeing.
And of course, making the change that I’m hoping we all get to: moving from away from diet culture and embracing a flexible, freeing, Intuitive Eating approach to food.
We all have parts that fear change. That’s just us being human. Change is scary, even when it’s the best thing for us. Some of our parts like the status quo, even if it’s not comfortable. And we need to get to know these parts in order to make any kind of lasting change.
Some of the fears that we discussed in last week’s episode were:
Fear of weight gain
Fear of failure (what if it doesn't work?)
Fear of success (what if it does??)
Fear of losing food as a coping strategy
Fear of disconnection from family and friends
While all of these fears are very common--and I ‘m guessing some of them resonated with you--our parts don't always present as that straightforward. Meaning, they don't waltz in and say, "Kim. I see that you're doing something different. I'd like to talk with you about the concerns I have about that." (Wouldn't it be great if they all did that??)
Our parts aren't always that blunt. And sometimes, they're just plain sneaky (because they're scared of change!).
On this week's episode, we're talking about how these parts may show up for you. Meaning, what are the things you might hear yourself say that indicate you've got a part in there that's carrying some fear of change. Or that's protecting other parts who are scared.
Some examples of this may be parts that say:
I don't care (just eat the d*mn ice cream!)
It's too hard to change
I'll work on that tomorrow
This IFS sh*t is weird and I'm not doing it
Fear of change is one of THE biggest reasons that things don’t work for us. So it’s vitally important that you’re aware of and get to know the parts of you that are scared. Take a listen for more details!
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